Bryan Family · Third Generation · Daughter of Abner

Mary Rix Bryan

1873 – 1948
Daughter of Abner  ·  Wife of H. J. Lawrence  ·  Pianist  ·  Teacher

Born
20 January 1873
Houston County, Georgia
Died
3 September 1948 · aged 75
Baxley, Appling County, Georgia
Buried
Omega Cemetery
Baxley, Appling County, Georgia · Find a Grave 233548256
Marriage
Col. Henry James “Judge” Lawrence (1872–1942)
12 August 1896 · Vienna, Dooly County, Georgia
Children
Laura Martha Elizabeth “Baby Bes” Lawrence Brobston 1898–1963
John Averette Lawrence 1900–1951
Mary Rix Lawrence Sackman 1906–1960
Henry James Lawrence Jr. 1909–1909
Oscar Bennett Lawrence 1912–1979
Occupations
Pianist · music teacher
Assistant teacher, Vienna Public Schools · 1895
In the estate
Not in the James A. Bryan estate record · born after the 1866 distribution · appears in Abner’s estate, 1890–1895 · ward of her brother John from December 1889
Siblings
John Averette Bryan (1869–1914) · Sarah Bryan (1874–1943)

Origins · The House on Lot 242

Mary Rix Bryan was born on January 20, 1873, in Houston County, Georgia — in the house her grandfather James had built on Lot 242 in 1832. She was the second child of Abner Council Bryan and Harriet Taylor, born four years after her brother John and one year before her sister Sarah. All three of them were born in the same house, on the same ground, into what the Lynton Book calls a kind of prosperity — not the kind that appears in a cotton ledger, but the kind that comes from a house full of children.

Abner had come home from the Confederate Army and inherited the house when the estate settled in 1866. He married Harriet Taylor in 1867 and made his life on the two hundred acres his father had left. The ground did not return what it once had, but the family held it, and the children grew up there, knowing the same porch and the same west-facing view their father had known as a boy.

Lynton Book · Chapter Seven

Abner married Harriet Taylor in October of 1867. She came to the house and made it hers, quietly and completely, the way Catharine had before her. John was born in January of 1869. Mary in 1873. Sarah in 1874. The house filled again with children, which was a kind of prosperity, though not the kind that appears in a cotton ledger.

Lynton Book · Chapter Seven

After Abner · 1889

When Abner died in December 1889, Mary was sixteen years old. John was twenty, Sarah fifteen. Their brother became their legal guardian — taking on the house, the ground, and the two younger sisters with the steadiness of a young man who understood what the moment required of him.

Lynton Book · Chapter Seven

He left John, who was twenty. And Mary, who was sixteen. And Sarah, who was fifteen.

John became their guardian, held what there was to hold, kept the family together on the two hundred acres with the steadiness of a young man who understood that steadiness was what the moment required.

Lynton Book · Chapter Seven

John maintained the connection between the old homestead and the wider family circle — visiting relatives at Gordon in the summer of 1890, keeping the roads open between Houston County and the Whitehurst household where their aunt Nancy had lived. Mary and Sarah grew up in that network, the third generation of a family that had spread outward from Lot 242 and still came back to it.


Vienna · Teacher and Pupil · 1895

By the summer of 1895, Mary had made her way to Vienna, the county seat of Dooly County, where a new public school was opening. The announcement appeared in the local paper that August: Vienna Public Schools would open their first session on September 16, 1895, under a full corps of thoroughly competent and conscientious teachers. The superintendent and principal was Prof. H. J. Lawrence. One of the listed assistants was Miss Mary Rix Bryan.

Vienna Public Schools · August 1895

Vienna Public Schools, Vienna, Georgia. Will open their first session, Monday, September 16th, 1895, under a full corps of thoroughly competent and conscientious teachers, to-wit:

Prof. H. J. Lawrence, Supt. and Prin.  —  Miss Annie G. Robertson  —  Miss Mary Rix Bryan  } Assistants.  —  Miss Anna Hamilton, Teacher of Music.

Vienna, Georgia · newspaper announcement · August 1895

The man she was listed beneath in that announcement was Col. Henry James “Judge” Lawrence, born in 1872, a year before Mary herself. She was twenty-two. He was twenty-three. They taught in the same school through that first session. On August 12, 1896 — less than a year after the school opened — they were married in Vienna, Dooly County.


The Pianist

Music ran through the Bryan family from the beginning. The estate of James A. Bryan had purchased a rosewood piano in December 1849; when Nancy Averette Bryan married Wilkinson M. Whitehurst in 1855, the instrument went with her as part of her distribution — land, a mule named Martha, and the piano at $260. That piano survived Sherman’s march through Wilkinson County in 1864, when the army made its headquarters at Nancy’s plantation on The Ridge and left it desolate, and it was played again at Whitehurst Academy in 1866. It stayed in the Whitehurst line.

The piano that eventually came to Mary arrived by a different road. When her sister Sarah married Oscar M. Heard in Dooly County in July 1895, the finest of the bridal presents was a handsome, upright grand Weber piano from the groom to the bride — noted by name in the wedding account as the gift of distinction among many costly ones. Oscar had it built for Sarah. It sat in the Heard mansion in Cordele through the prosperous years, traveled with the family, and outlasted Oscar’s fortune.

Mary was a trained pianist and music teacher, known in the parlors of middle Georgia. After Sarah’s death in 1943, the Weber passed to Mary. She carried it into her own life in Baxley, and after her death in 1948 it went to her daughter Mary Rix Lawrence Sackman in Jacksonville, Florida. When Mary Rix Sackman died in 1960, her son George donated the piano to the Baptist church she attended. Oscar’s 1895 wedding gift to Sarah found its last home sixty-five years later in a Jacksonville church — having passed through two sisters, a daughter, and a grandson before it came to rest.


A Prayer from Abner’s Bible · 1903

In June 1903, Mary wrote a prayer inside her father’s Bible — the Bible Abner had carried, and that had come to her after his death. She was thirty years old, married seven years, and living in Talbotton. Her first two children, Baby Bes and Avrette, were young. She had been teaching them — and teaching others — and the prayer is a teacher’s prayer, a mother’s prayer, set down in a dead man’s Bible for safekeeping.

The poem she copied is by John Greenleaf Whittier. She signed it in her married name.

Mrs. H. J. Lawrence’s prayer for her “jewels” · Abner C. Bryan’s Bible · June 4, 1903 · Talbotton, GA · Sunshine Cottages

My Prayer

Up to me sweet childhood looketh
Heart, and mind, and soul awake
Teach me of Thy ways, O Father
Teach me For Sweet childhood’s sake

In their young hearts soft and tender
Guide my hand good seed to sow
That it’s blossoming may praise Thee
Praise Thee whereso’er they go

Give to me a cheerful spirit
That my little flock may see
It is good and pleasant service
To be ever taught of Thee

Father, order all my footsteps
So direct my daily way
That in following me the children
May not ever go astray

Let Thy holy counsel lead me
Let Thy light before me shine
That they may not stumble over
Any need or deed of mine

Draw us hand in hand to Jesus
For His Word’s sake unforgot
“Let the little ones come to Me
And do Thou forbid them not”

— (John Greenleaf) Whittier —
Mrs. H. J. Lawrence’s prayer for her “jewels”
“Baby” Bess & Avrette Lawrence
Talbotton, GA   June 4, 1903   Sunshine Cottages

Abner C. Bryan’s Bible · inscription by Mrs. H. J. Lawrence · June 4, 1903

The Bible had been her father’s. She had inherited it along with whatever else remained after the sheriff’s sale and the estate proceeding and the years John had spent holding the ground together. It was a family document, like the reunion columns and the iron fence around the cemetery and the house itself. She added her prayer to it in Talbotton in June 1903, and it has stayed with the record since.


The 1918 Reunion · Mary’s Graduation

The first Bryan family reunion after John’s death was held in the summer of 1918 — and it was anchored, that year, by something particular: a celebration of Mary’s graduation. She was forty-five years old. The war was ending. Her brother had been dead four years. Lynda Lee, now the keeper of Lynton, organized the gathering as she always would — cemetery first, then the tables under the oaks, then storytelling and song.

Lynton Book · Chapter Nine

It began in 1918, the first reunion after John’s death, a celebration of Mary’s graduation that became something larger than a graduation. Before the barbecue, before the music, before the storytelling and song that would carry the afternoon into evening under the century oaks: the first duty was to visit the sacred resting place of departed loved ones, read the inscriptions which tell a shining record, then reverently place a flower to the memory of the saints on the other shore. That was the sequence. The dead before the living, every reunion. It was not a formality. It was the reason.

Lynton Book · Chapter Nine

Mary and her family came to those reunions from Baxley, in Appling County, where she and Henry James Lawrence had made their home. Nearly one hundred gathered each summer around the Fourth of July — from Baxley and Fort Valley and Macon and Cordele and Atlanta. The reunion column notes Baxley among the cities represented year after year. That was Mary’s road home.


Baxley · The Last Years

Mary Rix Bryan Lawrence spent the last decades of her life in Baxley, Appling County, where Henry James Lawrence died in 1942. She died there on September 3, 1948, aged seventy-five, and is buried at Omega Cemetery in Baxley.

She had been born in the house on Lot 242 — the house her grandfather built at the edge of the Georgia frontier, that her father struggled to keep, that her brother held for her and renamed for his wife. She carried the Bryan family further south and east than any of them had gone, into Appling County, into a life the records describe only in outline: a piano teacher, a mother of five, a woman who wrote a prayer in her father’s Bible in Talbotton on a June morning in 1903 and signed it for her jewels. She came back to Houston County every summer for the reunion, walked the cemetery, heard the storytelling, and rode back to Baxley. The house she was born in kept standing.

Sources
  • Lynton Book · Chapters Seven, Nine · 1832bryanhouse.com
  • Find a Grave · Mary Rix Bryan Lawrence · Memorial ID 233548256 · Omega Cemetery, Baxley, Appling County, Georgia
  • Vienna Public Schools · newspaper announcement · Vienna, Georgia · August 1895
  • Ancestry.com · marriage record · Henry James Lawrence and Mary Rix Bryan · 12 August 1896 · Vienna, Dooly County, Georgia
  • Abner C. Bryan’s Bible · inscription by Mrs. H. J. Lawrence · June 4, 1903 · Talbotton, Georgia
  • Oscar Heard’s Life & Legacy · family record · Weber piano provenance
  • Dooly County newspaper · July 1895 · Brilliant Social Event · Heard–Bryan wedding · Weber piano as bridal gift
  • Estate of James A. Bryan · Annual Returns 1849–1852 · 1856 Final Distribution · Houston County Court of Ordinary · Georgia Archives · [plantation rosewood piano and Nancy’s education]
  • Nancy Averette Bryan card · 1832bryanhouse.com/nancy-card · [plantation piano history]
  • Houston Home Journal · June 6, 1918 · The Bryan Reunion · Lynda Lee Bryan
  • Abner Council Bryan estate records · Houston County Court of Ordinary · 1890–1895